Val taught me a lot of things in the 2 years I knew her, and I can safely say the rest of her close friends did, too. Our lives have been changed because of her, and some changes because of her passing too.
But one thing is for sure, she sure left a legacy behind.
I suppose if you look at it closely, her passing shook all of us up and taught us powerful lessons in friendships, opening up our lives, sharing our joy and pain so that we may all help each other. The day after her passing, till the closure during her cremation, was a powerful time for me because it was then that I truly recognized the depth of how much we, her friends, cared for her and for each other.
We’re all still nursing our hurts but we’ve also learnt to help each other and listen to each other’s problems while being a little less judgmental about it.
The other lesson that she taught us was never to judge a person who is mentally ill, and never to judge a person who cuts himself/herself. She, by opening up to us, spread more awareness about mental health, and in her passing, even more so.
Val, thank you for the memories, thank you for the lessons in life you unwittingly taught us. You’ll always live in our hearts. And I hope all of us will be able to continue the legacy you left behind and, little by litte, person by person, spread awareness about mental health, why it matters, and how it can be treated.
I ♥ you. And I miss you so.
I do hope that through this blog too, we were able to carry the baton and Val’s light.